After you join the site, or make changes to the text of your profile it goes to our administrators for checking and approval before becoming visible to others. Under normal conditions this takes up to a maximum of 10 minutes but is usually less than 5 minutes. We have an administrative team employed to look after the approvals 24x7.
We have a set of guidelines for profile writing, some things are not allowed in the text of your profile.
These rules are to protect people from spammers, scammers and other unscrupulous people.
The best way to get into the scene is to create a profile then browse and reply to the thousands of swingers profiles in your area. That's what this site is all about! As this question often comes from single males let me offer some direct advice to that group - try browsing in the Couples seeking males section - always be polite - send full photographs, cock shots may not get you as many responses. If at first you don't succeed - try, try again. If someone says they are going to the Bermuda triangle for an extended holiday take the hint and move on to the next ad.
I cannot guarantee action to anyone - not even myself! You have four options here -
- use some foresight and planning and answer some ads a few weeks before your trip to arrange a meeting
- visit a swing club during your visit
- put a posting on the forum - you may get lucky
- call an escort
If anyone has additional ideas/options on this theme let me know.
Other than having a few ads from escorts on the site, we have little contact with escorts. We encourage you to contact them directly. Remember these are professionals whose time and expertise are valuable and treat them accordingly.
First, you will need to give up all your other hobbies and interests. Maintaining a site is a lot of work which doesn't leave much time for other things. Remember that if you create a site that people like, they will be very demanding, and keep asking for more content.
If you want to go ahead and build one, there are many excellent tutorials on website building available through any search engine on the web.
I will also build you websites go to https://www.ddproductions.co.uk for more details.
All the information we have on house parties and commercial clubs is on the site "Clubs and Parties". If you have details about clubs or parties in your area please send them to us and we will add them to the site.
We do not do personal introductions except between people we know, and who we think may get on well together.
This is a free world, and to be realistic we have no means by which to "make" people respond to ads or to mails sent in response to an ad. People have thousands of reasons why they may not respond.
Men please be aware - couples and ladies who advertise for men get so many responses it is impossible for them to respond to all of them - To illustrate the problem we have been talking to a few of the female and couples who have profiles. They have told us that the response rate has been in excess of 500 messages a week. This means that to read the responses alone takes a very long time. If it takes one minute to read each mail, it takes more than eight hours to read 500 mails, and replying to them, even at 30 seconds a mail takes more than four hours.
Don't respond to ads where you do not fit the criteria of the advertiser. You are wasting their time, your time, and clogging up the messaging system with hundreds of pointless emails.
Please read the etiquette section to be found on the links above.
Yes. we cannot force people to reply, but your mail has reached them, and if they have tried to respond their mail will be in one of your in boxes inside your profile. You can check if the recipient has read the mail by checking your Torrevieja swingers mailbox. Click on mail, then click on sent mails. If the mail you send has the word "new" in red, the person you have sent the mail to has not yet read it. If does not have anything then they have opened it.
Remember that if the word new is still there after a few days, you may well have ended up in their non-matched bin.
- a turkish/swedish/dominant escort? - check the "paid services" profiles, or some of the links to other escort boards. We do not have time to browse the internet very often, when we do, we are not looking for escorts.
- a discreet hotel in Madrid/London/Paris where I can take my girlfriend? - use any search engine and look for hotels+cityname.
You cannot without risking your marriage, talk about it, but don't push it. If it is not something you both want to do, don't do it - it will end in tears.
It is easier to say what is not acceptable: this is our list, not a legal requirement
- No Children to be involved (a person under the legal age of consent) in any sex act or picture. (If we or the administrators think a person looks under age we will ask for picture id (a passport) as proof of age/identity)
- No animals to be involved.
- No violence - beyond mild bondage/spanking.
- No pix of scatt.
- No mention of Rape or sex under duress
- No pictures of girls on a single males profile.
- Genital shots (cocks and pussies) must be accompanied by a face picture or a full length body shot (knees to shoulder minimum)
- No phone numbers, email addresses, chat ID's - to stop fake information being added leading to nuisance calls, mails etc.,
We will always reserve the right to pull any ad that we do not think fits in with the tone of the site.
Have a look at the information on the "Swingers Party Etiquette" page listed on menu.
We have got several excellent chat rooms and video chat rooms integrated in the profile system.
Yes please - A Vodka and 7up for Jo and for David a pint of Stella in the UK, or a large Mahou or San Miguel in Spain ;)).